Arduino and LoraBee and SoftwareSerial, no response from device

I have a Lorabee and Grove Bee Socket, trying to get this working from an Arduino.

Bee Socket led says it has power, but no tx/rx leds come on when i talk to it via softwareserial on ports 10,11.
The On/sleep led stays also off, ideas how to turn it on ?

I believe you will need to switch it on via the DTR pin.
On the Mbili this is D23 and the Autonomo it is A13.
The DTR pin is pin 9 on the left side of the Bee socket (above the GND pin).